Wednesday, January 30, 2013

Mamatography Week 4

17. Ready
My new car is finally ready! Well sort of. There are supposed to be special seats in the way back that are not available yet. And when we showed up to get it, they were updating the firmware and not finished charging it. You know, if you decide to ramp up delivery of your product, you should maybe make sure you are ready to ramp up actual delivery, not just accept payments. Not that I'm complaining about my new car, or anything.
17. Ready

18. Shadow
18. Shadow

19. Delicious
PCC gives free fruit to all kids who visit their grocery store. You know, instead of a cookie from the deli. Until Davis was old enough to get one, Moira picked anything but a banana. Once she picked a grapefruit. But since banana is the easiest thing to feed the baby in grocery cart, she must have a banana. One time at Whole Foods there was only one banana left in their kids club selection, and it was the end of the world. Good times. Davis is getting bored of bananas now, so we may be moving on to grapes or something soon.
19. Delicious

20. Something You Saw
Cleaning and reorganizing the playroom and kids bedroom has been on my to-do list for awhile. When the kids started playing on the slats on the bottom bunk (because that mattress is in our room for Davis) I knew it had to happen soon. I took the slats out and turned it into a little reading/snuggle nook, with all the stuffed animals and Davis' bean bag. We have some lights we need to hang, and then it will be perfect.
20. Something You Saw

21. What You Do
Snuggle this kid, all day. Well, sometimes I snuggle the other one. There may be a few other activities in the day too...
21. What You Do

22. Corner
I had grander plans for this picture, but they didn't pan out. Here is our new little play kitchen corner. The highchair is in a bad spot though because Davis can climb up it and grab at the pens.
22. Corner

23. Electric
The weirdest outlet in our house. In the downstairs bath, directly over the sink on a mirrored wall.
23. Electric

mtbadge2This post is part of the Mamatography 2013 Project with Diary of a First Child and Momma Jorje.
We are taking (at least) a photo a day to keep a record of our year. Join us at any point during the year and start sharing your own daily photos!

Also linked up at Hobo Mama and NPN.

Sunday, January 27, 2013

To the Mom on the internet that I judged

I'm sorry.
Moira's flower

Practicing non judgement is a personal goal of mine. I firmly believe that no one can say what is right for anyone but themselves. But the last month has brought a lot of stress for me, as well as a minor brush with internet fame where I made the mistake of reading the comments. NEVER read the comments! I hope you didn't read mine.
It's strange how being judged by others makes you more likely to judge someone else in return. Like, the only way to regain your surety is to pass it along? I reject that idea intellectually, and I'm ready again to take steps towards practicing non judgement again.

Thank you Amy, for always having the right way to gently encourage me back towards my goal, and all the rest of the Natural Parents Network team for supporting me along the way.

Wednesday, January 23, 2013

Mamatography Week 3

10. One O'Clock
I twisted my ankle right before Walker sliced his hand open on New Years, so I forgot to take care of it. I've been trying to remember to ice it during nap time, so this was my view at 1.
10. One O'Clock

11. Water
Steam from my tea kettle. Because it was a crazy sunny day here.
11. Water

12. Surprise!
12. Surprise!

13. Circle
Dim Sum lunch with my Skittles!
13. Circle

14. Something Yellow
A very strange poster at the new MOHAI, in the Seattle in film exhibit.
14. Something Yellow

15. An Ordinary Moment
This happens dozens of times a day, especially if there is something interesting on the table. Like the art project Moira is working on. I am trying to work on engaging him in our activity while he is in the chair, but it's a slow process.
15. An Ordinary Moment

16. Two Things
Moira's friend Mikko was coming over this night, and she was so excited she made him two pictures and a card. Yes, that is a giant puddle of glitter glue.
16. Two Things

mtbadge2This post is part of the Mamatography 2013 Project with Diary of a First Child and Momma Jorje.
We are taking (at least) a photo a day to keep a record of our year. Join us at any point during the year and start sharing your own daily photos!

Also linked up at Hobo Mama and NPN.

Tuesday, January 22, 2013

Skiing time is here!

Skiing
It's skiing time again, and Moira is taking an actual class this year. And also spending a whole day on the mountain with Walker. She begs for one more run, and comes home so tired she cannot stay calm through dinner and story time.
Skiing
In other words, she's having a blast. And who can blame her?
Cheese!
I mean, it's totally fabulous.

Thursday, January 17, 2013

My floor sparkles now

Success!
So this is a thing Davis likes to do. It's usually only the art/project table, although he'll climb up at a different table if we try to move our work somewhere else. I'm trying to get him involved in what we are doing while he stays in the chair, but he wants to be in the middle of the action, and also to hold the glitter glue.
I had every intention of putting elastic around the edge of the table cloth so it wasn't so slippery, I guess I should do that.
Moira's stamp project
Can you blame him for wanting to be in on the action? Moira was so focused on this project, and spent a long time getting it just right. We just bought her a journal so she can work with me when I do my art journal project for the week.
Stamps
Here is mine for this week. Much less exciting, and wrinkly because Davis knocked it over. I still like it. I suggested the stamps, Moira suggested the glitter, we both agreed on the paint. It's nice to have a collaborator.
Do you want this one?
He does have fun when he can stop working on his climbing on the table skills long enough to get to play with the supplies. Silly baby.

Wednesday, January 16, 2013

Mamatography week 2

3. Heart
I absolutely love the way Davis sleeps with his butt in the air.
3. Heart

4. The view from here
Since I already took a picture of the literal view from my house, I decided to take a micro view of the dishes I was doing.
4. The view from here

5. Movement
Davis is convinced he can figure out how to open this cabinet we tied closed if he just uses the right tools. He's probably right.
5. Movement

6. Mine
A glimpse at my costume for this year's Norwescon.
6. Mine

7. Street
I kind of didn't want to take a picture this day, but it got overexposed in this cool way.
7. Street

8. Something beginning with 'T'
A trio! These three have finally figured out how to play together, and now they spend the whole class moving as a pack. Next up, we figure how to keep our 4th member from being completely overwhelmed by their energy so she wants to play too.
8. Something beginning with 'T'

9. Paper
Fliers at ballet class.
9. Paper


mtbadge2This post is part of the Mamatography 2013 Project with Diary of a First Child and Momma Jorje.
We are taking (at least) a photo a day to keep a record of our year. Join us at any point during the year and start sharing your own daily photos!

Also linked up at Hobo Mama and NPN.

Monday, January 14, 2013

Davis Recommends: First Favorites

Welcome to a new occasional series! Sort of! I used to talk about the books Moira really loved, or that I really loved reading to her on a semi regular basis. But as she got older I stopped. Davis has recently discovered a love of picking out which books we should read, and some clear favorites have been uncovered. Here they are!

Mama, Where Are you? by Diane Muldrow: I bought this book when Moira was about 2, because I thought it was sweet. She loved it for awhile, but Davis REALLY likes it. Sometimes we read it 5 or more times in a row, with him going to the shelf to select another book, and coming back with this one every time. Each page has a baby animal on a flap asking the same question, then you lift the flap to discover that Mama is right there, teaching a lesson, or caring for the baby.

But Not the Hippopotamus by Sandra Boynton: The Hippopotamus does not want to do anything until pressured by it's friends. Hilarious!

Slide 'n Seek Shapes by Chuck Murphy: I've mentioned these books before in a Moira Recommends. It's an interesting concept and a well executed way to have parts of a board book's pages slide out, but I doubt they could make it strong enough for a toddler to not rip it all apart. The pictures are cute, but I think he could have tried harder to find something shaped like a triangle.

Thursday, January 10, 2013

I can't get over

Davis sorts
How much Davis loves to put things away. As you can TOTALLY tell from this photo, he is carefully selecting which things on the floor belong in the bin. Let us ignore the fact that he took all the things out of the bin behind him to sort into the new bin.
He also loves
Nain and Grumpy. As mentioned previously.
Shaking his head "no" style, to mean "yes."
FOOD. No, not that food, the other food that he knows is right there. Oh wait, and that food too please.
Playing with toys.
Snuggles.
He also likes to lie down on the floor/bed/couch/wherever and smile beguilingly at people.
Talking. Moira complained the other day that she couldn't hear the radio in the car because he was talking too loud. I laughed at her.
The snakes.
Returning books at the library.
Going in and out of elevators on his own. (Next up, pressing buttons. He was seriously contemplating them at the library yesterday. Moira will be displeased.)

Wednesday, January 9, 2013

Mamatography week 1

This is the other big project I want to do this year. A photo a day, for 2013. I've done this before, although to get 365 photos took me longer than a year. At least for now, I'm combining Mamatography with the photo a day prompts posted by Fat Mum Slim. I'm hoping (and so far this is true) that it will be both inspiration on days when I am feeling inspired, and a way to phone it in on days I'm not.
It is recommended by people who did Mamatography last year, that you work at least one week behind, so this first post will only have two pictures.
This also means I will likely not be doing Wordless Wednesday, since these are supposed to post on Wednesdays, and have words attached and all. I might do photo Fridays instead, because, if you haven't noticed by now, I believe there can never be enough photos! More I say! More!

1. Today
The first day of the new year was absolutely glorious. So, we of course stayed inside all day. :) This is the view from our main floor. Well, one of the views.
1: Today

2. Something New
I can talk Davis into climbing into his high chair when he's hungry! Now if we could just convince him to stay sitting while in there.
2: Something New

mtbadge2This post is part of the Mamatography 2013 Project with Diary of a First Child and Momma Jorje.
We are taking (at least) a photo a day to keep a record of our year. Join us at any point during the year and start sharing your own daily photos!

This post is also linked up at Hobo Mama and NPN.

Tuesday, January 8, 2013

If you are not on Google+

You missed all the socks I got for Christmas. These two are my favorites (today).
Octosocks!
Sewing socks
I'm here, if you want to circle me.

This song isn't too long

I've embarked on a project of redoing the tagging system on this here blog. Going through the archives is interesting. I get to reread about Moira's love of Iron Maiden at 2, and remember things I used to write that have fallen by the wayside. Mostly this kind of stream of consciousness, general update without a purpose. Well, I guess the purpose is to write down what's been happening.
There were also the Moira Recommends posts, which I think I will revitalize and do with her. And Davis is probably as old as she was when I started writing them. He is certainly interested in books and returns to a couple of them over and over.
PS3 time!
Moira got LBP Karting for Christmas, and in the couple of weeks that she's been playing there is a marked improvement in her skills. She now makes it to the third lap before someone wins, instead of spending most of her time trying to drive backwards on the track.
Davis got a lot of toys for Christmas. His favorite, by far, is a little puzzle board with doors, and inside the doors are different magnets. He carries the little magnets all around the place with him. He and Moira both really love the ball popping track she picked out for him. And there has been some arguing over who gets to play with it, at this very instant. She is pretty much only allowed to touch the magnet board if he's not around.
He also really likes books and has discovered that if you pick one out, and take it over to a person, they will actually read it to you! We have to take lots of breaks in the reading so that he can hold the book and carefully examine the picture. It's heart meltingly cute.
Collage
I'm trying to art journal again. It turns out that doing two pages a day was too much of a commitment, so I'm following along with the art journalling prompts at Authentic Parenting. It's much easier to do this once a week. Although I will admit that I did not get much Zentangle drawn before Davis woke up.
Moira did about 20 pages of scribbles next to me while I was working carefully on mine. We talked about the different types of lines she was drawing, and whether she was working fast or slow, soft or hard. After a couple of pages she started combining motions and techniques.
Davis gets super excited when he sees my parents, which is adorable. Last night he heard Dad come home from work, and started madly crawling towards his voice. Dad went downstairs before Davis got there though, and so there were tears. I had to take him downstairs so he could play with Grumpy for a bit.
I'm being told it's story time now, so I will stop writing. Tomorrow there will be a post about the other big bloggy project I'm doing this year.

Sunday, January 6, 2013

Creating a more gender neutral world through books

Rainbow books
I have a long and proud history of changing the words when I read books to kids. Mostly, I would alter genders so that some of the best loved children's books of all time, like Dr Seuss's works, would have some female characters. The problem with that is that I am still bringing my cultural programming to every book I read. I make choices without realizing why about which animal is a girl, and reinforce the cultural stereotypes I would like to bring down.
So I made a radical decision. I have been changing all gendered pronouns to gender neutral ones. It wasn't, and still isn't easy, but I've already noticed a difference in the characters my daughter gravitates towards in her play, and a marked reduction in the phrase, "Girls/boys don't do that!"
I started out just replacing ones for unnamed characters with "it" and "they." Once I got used to that, I started replacing all pronouns for children and generic characters with "ou" for "he/she," and "hir" for "him/her." Mailmen became mail carriers. I am now working on getting used to replacing "Mom/Dad" with "parent," "son/daughter" with "child," and "brother/sister" with "sibling." I may work next on adding other gender neutral pronouns. It would certainly make some stories easier to read to have more options to differentiate people.
It's been pointed out to me that this will only work until the kids start reading on their own. I think that's only partially true. By starting them out in a world where they can be any character, I'm hopefully that I'm increasing the realm of possibilities for them. Not only can Moira imagine that the knight is a brave girl like her, but Davis can imagine that he is the pretty princess. Once they start reading, we can have discussions about why I made that change.
They can both like pink with less of an expectation that he is bucking a standard by doing so. I have a life long love of the Teen Titans comics and bought her some of the Tiny Titans series only to discover there are two issues that used the idea of boys in pink as a gag. A horribly sexist, cultural stereotype reinforcing gag. But if none of the characters have a gender, then the whole thing just turns into a farce where some people seem to think pink isn't an intimidating color, and that's pretty silly, isn't it?
Moira has started referring to people with indeterminate gender (strangers in coats, babies, dogs) as "Ou," and so far no one has noticed enough to correct her. She's still happy to tell anyone who asks, or assumes wrong, that Davis is her BROTHER, but as far as we know, that is true. I've also noticed that as I get more used to doing this, I'm more likely to do it in my head as I'm reading my own books.
One of the great joys of parenting is that you get to push your agenda on your children. People who like watching football are more likely to have children who enjoy watching football. People who love the theater, have children who love the theater. I hope that I have children who know that they can be weak and strong, gentle and tough, pink and blue. I make no bones about my agenda.

Wednesday, January 2, 2013

Sucker please!

So, here's a thing I made!
Relaxing
I used Rae's Big Butt Baby Pants pattern, which is the same one I used for his Norwescon costume. It's super easy, and I really want to make him a boatload (butt load?) of them, especially every time he grows out of a size and I need to buy him new ones. They are so fast, and cute, and yet, I don't have enough time.
For this shirt, I made a quick pattern from a shirt that fits him. The fabric is from an old shirt of mine, and the little octopus is from an old shirt of his that was stained. The octopus is so cute, and since I couldn't hand it down to someone, I decided to save it.
Furniture moving
Back view! The butt print is leftovers from Moira's Wind Girl cape. You can see that I need to add an inch or two to the rise if I make him another pair. He is a tall guy. He is also firmly devoted to rearranging furniture. We are constantly tripping over chairs around here.

WW: Last year

PS3 time!

Linked up with Hobo Mama and NPN